My journey into parenthood could be described as “unconventional” or even back to front. 10 years ago we became foster parents. Our first placement was a 17 year boy. Since then we’ve had numerous young people live with us on a short and long term basis ranging from 4 year olds to 18 year olds and also had 2 birth children. We’ve had a whole heap of experiences that range from awesome, bizarre, terrifying, overwhelming and utterly precious. If you every want a crash course in a wide range of parenting experiences then it’s one way to do it!
We know all too well that each of our children is beautifully unique, without an instruction manual and needs us to treat them as such. This means however much experience we have it’s never dull, there’s frequently a new challenge and there’s always more to learn It’s why I am passionate about the importance of parents having support and why I believe every parent needs a coach. What do I mean?
“It takes a village to raise a child”
Parents needing a coach is not a new idea, just a new label – it’s been happening across different nations and time eras long before the title coach was even used. In our modern age it can sometimes be a little harder to find our “village”.
Whether your “coach” is a whole range of different people or just a handful the question is who do you have around you who offer you the key aspects of coaching and if you don’t, how do you go about getting it? It might be employing a coach for a season, but it might just be taking a moment to be real with a friend or to arrange to have a coffee or to tell your partner what kind of support you need. Whatever it looks like, having that “village” is crucial because being a parent is one of the most important and challenging roles you could ever have.
Over the next few weeks I’ll be exploring this idea further and what our “village” needs to look like to help us be the best possible parents we can be to our children and to help us enjoy that precious journey of family life.